UNSAFE SEX?! Uh... raise your hands...

[Five Cent Deposit]

I'll make this a poll so that some of you (the ones with no balls) can reply under the protection of anonymity.

Tonight's question is:

Do you ever practice UNSAFE sex? This doesn't mean condomless sex with someone you know to be "clean". Nor does it mean monogamous sex with no risk of pregnancy. Take a look at the poll options and click as many as apply to you. Then, if you have anything to add, post about your experience(s).

I'll start:

I almost never use a condom, with ANYONE. Yes, that means that even when I am getting to know a new girl, the first time we have sex I might not use a condom. If she asks me to, I will every time. But surprisingly few women ask. I've even offered, like "Uh, do you want me to grab something to put on?". Amazingly, many girls say it doesn't matter. Especially ones who are on the pill. The exchange usually goes like this, once I realize that I am going to take it all the way:

Me: Do you want to-

Her: Yeah...

Me: *pant* uuuuunnnnn, me too *pant* I wanna be inside you...

Her: *sigh* I WANT you inside me!

Me: Hold on, uhh... mmm...

Her: aaaaahhh... ...ahhhh... ....what?

Me: Well, uh, do you want me to get something? [I hate the word condom]

Her: What do you mean, like a-

Me: A condom.

Her: No, don't worry about it, I'm on the pill!

Me (thinking): !!!

Me: Uh, okay. Are you safe though? I mean-

Her (thinking, probably): Oh, I hate this moment... Her: Yeah, I don't have anything. What about you?

Me: No, I'm good. I've been very careful [is this true?!?!]

Her: Me too... I really want you inside me, and I want to really feel you....

You can all guess what happens next. I can't explain the behavior.

So, there. I've admitted it. I'm a bad boy. Actually, there is more. When I was in a 5.5 year relationship, my EX sometimes was on the pill, and sometimes was not. Our sex habits rarely reflected any difference. We almost always did it "roulette" style, taking a chance. Unfortunately, we *did* have an incident where our number came up. :(:(

[tygloalex]

I'm married. PULL OUT!

[icondude]

Where is the "vasectomy" option? Had to pick the last option but could have picked more than one.

[Five Cent Deposit]

Originally posted by icondude
Where is the "vasectomy" option? Had to pick the last option but could have picked more than one.

You should have picked the "pregnancy is either impossible or desired" option, if you are currently having sex with someone on a regular basis. Since you picked the last option, I figure I can safely guess that you *do* get involved in "relationships". Once you are sure that there is no risk of STDs, you discontinue the use of a condom because there is no risk of pregnancy. I tried to make the choices as broad as possible, to allow for (and encourage) POSTS like yours which explain the details. Thanks for the response, criticism or not. You have an interesting case that could fit into several categories, again that is why I made the poll the way it is (multiple choice). You could have picked one or both of these:

My S/O and I don't use condoms because we aren't at risk of pregancy...

I use condoms with new lovers until we've both been tested (or whatever).

[einTier]

Well, I'm married now, so the point is moot. My wife is on the pill, and I'm considering vasectomy very strongly. We're disease free and so, condoms aren't nessessary.

When I first started dating, I was very adamant about always using a condom, but it was primarily for pregnancy reasons, not disease reasons. After a while, depending on many different factors, I used them maybe half the time in new relationships, and almost never in established relationships.

My experience is like five cent's, most girls don't seem to care much. I wish I could tell you how many told me they were sterile and a condom wasn't nessessary. I know it couldn't be nearly as many I seemed to find.

[Five Cent Deposit]

Originally posted by einTier
My experience is like five cent's, most girls don't seem to care much. I wish I could tell you how many told me they were sterile and a condom wasn't nessessary. I know it couldn't be nearly as many I seemed to find.

A bit terrifying, isn't it.

[Soup Nazi]

I use a condom in the beginning of a relationship, but after STD TESTING, I stop using them.

[einTier]

Originally posted by Five Cent Deposit


A bit terrifying, isn't it.

Oh yeah. I kept telling myself that they were telling the truth (I really wanted to believe), that I was probably sterile too (never gotten anyone pregnant) , and that my chances of getting something incurable were pretty slim -- after all, what kind of ******* carries around AIDS or herpes and doesn't tell anyone?

Then I met this guy at a restaurant I bartended at. He had AIDS, but told anyone who needed to know. Then, two years later, I had to work with him again. After being discriminated against and spending two years without getting laid, he stopped telling anyone at all. That's the kind of ******* who doesn't tell anyone.

[ziggy]

I use one with strangers, but only off and on with girls I know better.

Typically the situation is we have sex for awhile without one, then when it starts to get close to time, I go down on her and put on the rubber - I can do that, I have talent :p - Then finish with the condom on. The hiatus give time for things to settle, so that I can go for quite awhile with the condom on, too.

[Copenhagen]

I've gone in without the armor before, but only with the ones I've been with for awhile.

[Five Cent Deposit]

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[criptik28]

Welcome back. :)

[AudioWizard]

#3 for me in my last relationship...No condom but she was on birth control.

[wiz]

I use a condom the first time I sleep with somebody, unless she was a virgin. At least that's the way it's been so far. I like to be safe though, especially if I don't know where she's been, but normally I know where the women have been as I've talked to them about their past before sex comes into the picture. I guess I'm jut not a one night stand type of man.

[Munchos]

I almost always use a condom for the very first couple of times in a relationship, until it comes to the point, where we both know that is a serious relationship. And always on one-night stands is a condom necessary.

On a side note, my gf is on the pill, so I never ever where a condom. And I almost always finish the deed inside too. Who wants to pull out from a nice warm cave, to a cold environment? I don't.

[theedge]

Nope, me and Heidi have been going out over a year now.. no protection, and we have had more sex with each other then either has ever had before I think! My god 3-6x per day! only about 1-2 per day tho when we work! :)

[Catch 21]

I use a condom always and she must be on the pill.

I dont trust women when they say they are on the pill. Many, many, guys I know fall for that bit and wind being a daddy.