Foot Fetish (or any fetish)

[Buttmunker]

Can anyone explain to my ignorant self what the allure is to sucking feet, or scat, or golden showers, or any of those strange fetishes?

Do you think it stems from an abusive childhood, perhaps? I'm seriously, you guys.

[alarican]

I like to bang chicks after they have had a shower, or after getting out of a jacuzzi!

:eek:

[Nick Danger]

I don't think that anyone knows. Some folks are just wired differently. From what I've read on the internet, there doesn't seem to be a strong correlation between childhood abuse and fetishes.

As for the allure, why do you think women's butts are attractive? You just feel it. These guys 'just feel it' for something else.

I hope that someone who's actually taken a college psych class can tell us the official reason. I'm kind of curious.

[Toxygen]

as my friend would say, "because they're deranged perverts, that's why!" :lol:

I don't really know, but some reasons might be rebellion against someone/something, the taboo against the act (which to some people is reason enough), or maybe they had some experience in the past which introduced them to the act and they liked it for no other reason than it turned them on.. you can't really look too deep into some things, because you can start coming up with all manner of reasons and excuses for them. :hscratch:

[diacritic]

Fetishes--foot, fur, stocking, shoe--usually stem from that traumatic childhood moment when the child realizes, for the first time, that mommy has no penis. The "lack" of a penis is so traumatic, so shocking, that the little boy must turn his eyes away and he usually fixates his gaze on another part of the mother's body: foot, shoe, pubic hair, etc. That thing the child focuses on becomes the "replacement" for the "lost" penis of the mother--this object also becomes the fetish. It is a way for the fetishist to cope with the lost maternal penis (and the possibility of he, too, losing his own penis).

[LostHiWay]

Originally posted by diacritic
Fetishes--foot, fur, stocking, shoe--usually stem from that traumatic childhood moment when the child realizes, for the first time, that mommy has no penis. The "lack" of a penis is so traumatic, so shocking, that the little boy must turn his eyes away and he usually fixates his gaze on another part of the mother's body: foot, show, pubic hair, etc. That thing the child focuses on becomes the "replacement" for the "lost" penis of the mother--this object also becomes the fetish. It is a way for the fetishist to cope with the lost maternal penis (and the possibility of he, too, losing his own penis.

Now I know why I think psychology is such a waste

[Nick Danger]

Well, I did ask for the official psych explanation. That must be Freud's version.

How did the shoe become a show in the quote?

[Phil L.]

You can pick out any item in the Sears catalog and somebody, somewhere, wants to sleep with it.

[zuffy]

Originally posted by Phil L.
You can pick out any item in the Sears catalog and somebody, somewhere, wants to sleep with it.

nothing better than the lifetime warranty Craftsman tools :drool: ;)

[Buford T Pusser]

Funny question from a guy whose name reminds me of ButtMuncher. Do you have a proclivity for rim jobs?

[Buford T Pusser]

Originally posted by alarican
I like to bang chicks after they have had a shower, or after getting out of a jacuzzi!

:eek:

YOU are sick!

[Buford T Pusser]

Originally posted by zuffy
nothing better than the lifetime warranty Craftsman tools :drool: ;)

I always preferred Rigid and their vise-like grip.

http://www.industrialairtool.com/ridgidwrench.gif

[Buttmunker]

All these intelligent and insightful responses have helped me to understand fetishes even less. Thank you all!

I was kind of hoping that an actual fetisher would have responded - someone with the 'first-person' point-of-view. Guess everyone's "normal" on this site.

And the comment about mommy missing a penis --- you had me going there for a minute.

[diacritic]

Originally posted by Buttmunker
All these intelligent and insightful responses have helped me to understand fetishes even less. Thank you all!

I was kind of hoping that an actual fetisher would have responded - someone with the 'first-person' point-of-view. Guess everyone's "normal" on this site.

And the comment about mommy missing a penis --- you had me going there for a minute.

The proper term is "fetishist" not "fetisher," and the point about mommy missing a penis, though not accepted fact, is an important step towards understanding fetishism--a form of behavior that is linked to the castration complex (the child's fear of losing his penis, since he thinks that daddy cut off mommy's penis because she was being "bad"). This is Freud's theory (see his essay entitled "Fetishism") which was taken up and altered by his disciple Lacan in the 1950s.

[Buford T Pusser]

Originally posted by Buttmunker
All these intelligent and insightful responses have helped me to understand fetishes even less. Thank you all!

I was kind of hoping that an actual fetisher would have responded - someone with the 'first-person' point-of-view. Guess everyone's "normal" on this site.


Maybe someone's been too busy practicing their fetish to show up here. It is the weekend and studies show that people with fetishes prefer Friday through Sunday for their group meetings.

Or maybe some of the regulars don't want to admit to their fetish. Or maybe we are all normal although there are a few I'm sure are not. :p

[dtcarson]

I would like to comment on this apparent belief that 'fetish' =! 'normal'. Technically a fetish only becomes 'abnormal' when it is required for sexual arousal; most of what is usually termed 'fetish' is more accurately a hobby, interest, or 'spice' into a sex life [See other thread asking 'how to spice up sex life'.] Very similar to other habits; washing your hands five times a day is 'normal', washing them 1000 times a day is 'abnormal' because it gets in the way of your having a normal life [much like a 'required' fetish can get in the way of having a regular sex life.]

Who's to say what is 'normal' with regards to sexual activity? The ancient Greeks liked buggery, many societies only like man-on-top or long hair or things like that, the old Victorian English liked those tight constraining corsets; any of those could be considered a fetish. Like Nick Danger said way up there, why is ok to like a woman's butt or legs, but say, liking her feet is considered a 'fetish'? Or long hair, some guys really get off on long hair [head hair, not armpit hair or anything--but that could be another example.] Or even homosexuality, could that be considered a 'fetish'? A male homosexual is usually definitely into the penis, and could relate to the Freud thing.

I really don't know if I buy 'mommy has no penis' and Freud as a reason for it; I had thought that the details of Freud's work have been pretty much discredited.

Now, as I said in my first paragraph, the situation where the object of fetishism is REQUIRED to enjoy oneself sexually is definitely a psychological issue; but remove the sexual aspect of it, and it merely becomes another obsession [like people who have to wash their hands fifty times a day, etc.] But assuming the OP's question can be rephrased as, 'Why do some people like sexual stuff I don't like?', then it's simply a case of diff'rent strokes [pun intended]. Do you like being on top? Do you like spanking, or being spanked, or being tied up? Do you like anal? Some of you will say Yes to some of those, and some will say No.

The only thing that makes a sexual activity a 'fetish' is the number of people who are into it....ie, S/He likes mummification, or those creepy leather masks, or WAM, and I/a large portion of the society don't, therefore, s/he's got a fetish.

And again, around the world, it's all relative--I have seen British porn mags with women dressed in plastic trash bags, cutting themselves out--doesn't do a thing for me, but whatever floats their boat.

As a society, I think we in the 21st century, and especially Americans, are incredibly prudish with regards to sexuality. Walk in any 'adult bookstore', you'll likely only see a couple of types of films: orgies, anal, lesbian, maybe a little bondage/leather. And that's it. We don't have a problem with our young people [16, 18, 20] watching Schwarzenegger blow away people on the big screen, or Jason/Freddy lacerate people, but show a couple of people in bed being creative, or show a man full frontal, and the rumours start to fly. [Note: not to say that I think we should be giving ten year olds porn, but that there's more to sex, and a health sexual life consists of more, than just missionary/reverse missionary/etc.]

Anyway, I don't think I really answered the original question, but I did want to comment on the apparent perception of 'fetish=abnormal.' If I had to say 'why,' I'd say in some cases, because it 'feels' like they're 'sneaking one in' or being rebellious [probably most specifically related to the scat/watersports] by enjoying something usually termed 'dirty'; and in many other cases, because it feels/looks good. There can definitely be underlying issues; ie, someone might like spanking because he's really a misogynist, or like being spanked because they have very low self esteem, or like wam because they like thinking of women as 'dirty', but I think those are the vast minority of cases.

If you like it, if your partner/s likes it, and if you're both old enough to make educated decisions [or not get arrested], go for it. Just as long as the 'fetish' is an addition to a healthy active sex life, not a replacement for such. Many a long-term, vanilla sexual relationship has benefited from being 'spiced up' in some way.

[diacritic]

We are all fetishists in one way or another. I, for one, never believed that fetishism was abnormal. Most people around here are fetishists, but their desire for the maternal phallus is sublimated in other, more acceptable, ways (i.e. collecting DVDs instead of tresses of hair). Most fetishists are also collectors, don't forget...

[Josh-da-man]

How do women feel about guys with foot fetishes?

On the one hand, I think they'd probably enjoy having their feet rubbed and their toes sucked. On the other hand, they probably wouldn't want the guy doing it to enjoy it too much. ;)

And would they be mad if they caught him looking at other women's feet? I can just see a couple at the mall during summertime - sandal weather - and her telling him to keep his eyes straight ahead.

[Giantrobo]

I'm really into "the right shoes". It's my thing.

Platforms ALWAYS get my attention and the "Stripper platform" heels? :drool:

My other fetishes include:

Dark hair
pale skin
Plump Girls
Muscular women
cute feet

[Buford T Pusser]

Originally posted by Giantrobo
I'm really into "the right shoes". It's my thing.

Platforms ALWAYS get my attention and the "Stripper platform" heels? :drool:

My other fetishes include:

Dark hair
pale skin
Plump Girls
Muscular women
cute feet

Didn't you have a link to a shoe pix page of your wife?

[Nick Danger]

Originally posted by diacritic
. . . a form of behavior that is linked to the castration complex (the child's fear of losing his penis, since he thinks that daddy cut off mommy's penis because she was being "bad").

Where do Freudians say women's fetishes come from?

Originally posted by dtcarson
The only thing that makes a sexual activity a 'fetish' is the number of people who are into it....ie, S/He likes mummification, or those creepy leather masks, or WAM, and I/a large portion of the society don't, therefore, s/he's got a fetish.

What the heck is WAM?

Originally posted by Buttmunker
I was kind of hoping that an actual fetisher would have responded - someone with the 'first-person' point-of-view.

Ummmm, no. I think I'll keep my pervy proclivities to myself. As always, the best place to get information is http://www.sexuality.org .

[immortal_zeus]

I have a foot fetish. But not in a sexual way. I don't rub my penis against women's feet or anything sexual like that (although I have sucked toes on one or two occasions). There are quite a few nerve endings in feet and I believe that some parts of feet and/or toes are considered errogenous zones.

I have a foot fetish in much the same way that Eddie Murphy's character in <I>Boomerang</I> did. I don't think I could stand to go out with a girl who had nasty feet. I guess I could bone her, but if I were to have a serious relationship with her, I honestly think that she had better have nice looking feet.

I like it when women wear open-toed shoes, sandals, slippers, etc. so I can see their feet. If I see a woman with nice feet and a nasty face/body, I'm not going to want to bone her. But if an attractive girl has nice feet, the nice feet will likely elevate my attraction to her.

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[Giantrobo]

Originally posted by Buford T Pusser
Didn't you have a link to a shoe pix page of your wife?


nope not me.

She couldn't wear anything sexy due to footpain. :( oh well...

[Phil L.]

Originally posted by Giantrobo
I'm really into "the right shoes". It's my thing.



I like 'em both meself.
Left or right. It's all good. -wink- :D

[Buford T Pusser]

Originally posted by Giantrobo
nope not me.

She couldn't wear anything sexy due to footpain. :( oh well...

I think it might have been Bardevious. Maybe he was banned?

[joltaddict]

Originally posted by Buford T Pusser
I think it might have been Bardevious. Maybe he was banned?

That was me that posted the SOs sexy shoes shot. :o

[Buford T Pusser]

Originally posted by joltaddict
That was me that posted the SOs sexy shoes shot. :o

Can you post it again or a link to jog my memory and see if that's what I meant? Did you have a whole site of pix? That's what I was thinking I'd seen.

[JesseCuster]

I thought I'd jump into this. I have a fairly intense foot fetish, but just for like, the appearance of a woman's feet. I'm not into nibbling on a girl's toes after she's been wearing tennis shoes for 8 hours or something. I find that as icky as anyone else would. I know that there's a connection between foot fetishism and smells and licking and so forth so I just wanted to make that distinction. If a girl's feet are clean or if it's just like, a foot massage or something though, I'm there. :)

Speaking for myself, I can trace the beginnings of my fetish to a particular incident, *very* sexually intense for me, that occured when I was pretty young. No, it wasn't abusive or anything and I'm certain no one knew what was going on, the girl who was "affecting" me in particular. Heck, I didn't even understand what was happening. But it's stayed with me and I'm certain that incident is the source of my fetish. I think it's pretty clear that, for whatever reason, fetishes are a product of some incident that occurs in early development. You just have to hope that it triggers a harmless fetish and not a potentially dangerous one.

I definitely group a girl's feet with her breasts and butt and legs and face and the other parts of her body that are overtly sexual, from most objective perspectives. And I usually look at a girl's feet first if I find her cute overall, though butts are starting to really gain my respect :)

[joltaddict]

Originally posted by Buford T Pusser
Can you post it again or a link to jog my memory and see if that's what I meant? Did you have a whole site of pix? That's what I was thinking I'd seen.

It was in a thread where somebody was shoping for hot shoes for his woman. I think. I posted two shots of her in my favorites, IIRC.

Ill look for it.
EDIT- found one of them.

http://www.theforumisdown.com/uploadfiles/1102/Czz001qa.jpg

[Buford T Pusser]

Originally posted by joltaddict
It was in a thread where somebody was shoping for hot shoes for his woman. I think. I posted two shots of her in my favorites, IIRC.

Ill look for it.
EDIT- found one of them.

http://www.theforumisdown.com/uploadfiles/1102/Czz001qa.jpg


Hmmm. I don't remember seeing that one. Was the other shot in the same post?

Is that the thread where the guy was looking for some shoes his girlfriend had worn out that were kinda ugly and out of fashion?

[Buford T Pusser]

Originally posted by JesseCuster
I think it's pretty clear that, for whatever reason, fetishes are a product of some incident that occurs in early development. You just have to hope that it triggers a harmless fetish and not a potentially dangerous one.




Interesting, honest post. I agree with the early development theory.

[immortal_zeus]

Originally posted by joltaddict

http://www.theforumisdown.com/uploadfiles/1102/Czz001qa.jpg

Jolt, your woman has GREAT feet. :up: -other-

:D

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[Buford T Pusser]

Originally posted by immortal_zeus
Jolt, your woman has GREAT feet. :up: -other-

:D

http://www.ameritech.net/users/dvdtalk/rome.gif

I thought about posting that, but can conclusions really be drawn with just one photo? :p

[immortal_zeus]

Originally posted by Buford T Pusser
I thought about posting that, but can conclusions really be drawn with just one photo? :p

I don't know, but I "concluded" all of my keyboard....where's that damn Kleenex?

:p

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[JesseCuster]

Originally posted by Buford T Pusser
I thought about posting that, but can conclusions really be drawn with just one photo? :p

For certain..we need *lots* more to be sure. :)

Very sexy feet...small ankles and cute toes. Nice color too...kind of lightly tanned looking.

[Brain Stew]

I have a fetish for panties.

[mookiemeister]

Originally posted by Brain Stew
I have a fetish for panties.

I think that's a fetish many if not most guys have. ;)

[joltaddict]

Originally posted by JesseCuster
For certain..we need *lots* more to be sure.

:lol: rotfl :lol:

Ill see what I can do later. :D

[Buford T Pusser]

Originally posted by mookiemeister
I think that's a fetish many if not most guys have. ;)

Unless you're saying you like to wear women's panties.

[Buford T Pusser]

Originally posted by JesseCuster

Speaking for myself, I can trace the beginnings of my fetish to a particular incident, *very* sexually intense for me, that occured when I was pretty young. No, it wasn't abusive or anything and I'm certain no one knew what was going on, the girl who was "affecting" me in particular. Heck, I didn't even understand what was happening. But it's stayed with me and I'm certain that incident is the source of my fetish.

What did happen?

Just someone's foot in your lap?





(ran into this thread while doing a search for a Freud thread I'm going to start in Other. I'd forgotten about this and always meant to ask.)

[WillieTheShakes]

Where the hell did this thread come from? Is there a time machuine running wild?

[Superboy]

Originally posted by JesseCuster
I thought I'd jump into this. I have a fairly intense foot fetish, but just for like, the appearance of a woman's feet. I'm not into nibbling on a girl's toes after she's been wearing tennis shoes for 8 hours or something. I find that as icky as anyone else would. I know that there's a connection between foot fetishism and smells and licking and so forth so I just wanted to make that distinction. If a girl's feet are clean or if it's just like, a foot massage or something though, I'm there. :)

Speaking for myself, I can trace the beginnings of my fetish to a particular incident, *very* sexually intense for me, that occured when I was pretty young. No, it wasn't abusive or anything and I'm certain no one knew what was going on, the girl who was "affecting" me in particular. Heck, I didn't even understand what was happening. But it's stayed with me and I'm certain that incident is the source of my fetish. I think it's pretty clear that, for whatever reason, fetishes are a product of some incident that occurs in early development. You just have to hope that it triggers a harmless fetish and not a potentially dangerous one.

I definitely group a girl's feet with her breasts and butt and legs and face and the other parts of her body that are overtly sexual, from most objective perspectives. And I usually look at a girl's feet first if I find her cute overall, though butts are starting to really gain my respect :)

Was being locked up in a coffin and thrown into the bottom of a river "shocking" enough for ya?

Any-way, I don't know where my fetishes come from. But i do enjoy them immensely.

[KDforever]

Originally posted by Buttmunker
Can anyone explain to my ignorant self what the allure is to sucking feet, or scat, or golden showers, or any of those strange fetishes?

Do you think it stems from an abusive childhood, perhaps? I'm seriously, you guys.

I also like ice cubes on my feet (and other places).

So, does this make me weird?!?

[Buford T Pusser]

Originally posted by Kittydreamer


So, does this make me weird?!?

Not if you post a pic.

[policy]

Here are my fetishes:

1)Golden Shower
2)Urine
3)Hairy Bush
4)Panties
5)Stockings

I think that really only 1 and 2 are out of the ordinary.

I've never been sexually abused, molested, etc. And I didnt see my mom naked until after my formative years, and I walked in on her sitting on the toilet and I averted my eyes to the door. As of now, I haven't had any fetish for doors, or wood working of any kind.

As to what I like about it, I have a fetish for Female Ejactulators as well, but I've never experienced it so this is my substitute.

So specifically what I like about it, is that it's taboo which makes me have a heightened arousal to what I'm doing, aside from the tactile sensation of warm liquid on your penis and chest, etc. feeling nice, and sensual.

I have absolutely no attraction to the urine itself, nor do I really desire to watch my girlriend use the restroom.

She did pee outside recently and that was a big turn on (It wasn't staged for my benefit, which may have had something to do with the arousal).

And as someone with a watersports fetish, I don't understand foot fetishists, but then there are things that EVERYONE is attracted to that not everyone understands.

[Julie Walker]

So can someone explain what the hell WAM is? Someone asked that long ago,but no one replied.


I find Freuds fetish reasoning laughable. The 'penis' thing is hilarious. I don't know ANY person that ever thought their mom had a penis when they were kids and were 'shocked' & 'traumatized' to find out she did not.

[Buford T Pusser]

WAM? What was the context?

[WillieTheShakes]

WAM is 'wet and messy. Chicks in pudding, etc.

And Policy - while some on the board may agree with some (a lot) of what you're saying, TMI dude, TMI.

[sexymama]

Originally posted by Josh-da-man
How do women feel about guys with foot fetishes?

I was walking down the street one day and some guy stopped me and asked if I'd just hold still so he could look at my feet. I thought it odd since it was a random person but I figured he had a foot fetish and so stood there while I fished out a cig. I walked off when he asked if I would take my foot out of my shoe so he could hold it... To be honest I was a little weirded out. I agree with dtcarson in that having a foot or any fetish is normal (i.e., whatever floats your boat) but allowing some random stranger to fondle my foot is a no can do in my book! -ohbfrank- ;)

[Suprmallet]

Originally posted by sexymama
I was walking down the street one day and some guy stopped me and asked if I'd just hold still so he could look at my feet. I thought it odd since it was a random person but I figured he had a foot fetish and so stood there while I fished out a cig. I walked off when he asked if I would take my foot out of my shoe so he could hold it... To be honest I was a little weirded out. I agree with dtcarson in that having a foot or any fetish is normal (i.e., whatever floats your boat) but allowing some random stranger to fondle my foot is a no can do in my book! -ohbfrank- ;)

So that was you! :mad:

[Buford T Pusser]

OI!

[JesseCuster]

Originally posted by Buford T Pusser
What did happen?

Just someone's foot in your lap?




It was something like that. I was up close and personal with a very pretty teenage girl's feet, in hose. And what happened I interpreted as sexual, at least my mind did at a very instinctive level. I was just a child and I didn't have any idea what was happening to me. And I know that if she had known it was affecting me that way, she wouldn't have done it. I'm very glad it happened though, because it's just another part of a woman's body that I find very attractive. Usually.

[sexymama]

Originally posted by Suprmallet
So that was you! :mad:

http://www.beatlelinks.net/ubb/smilies/spank.gif

*spank, spank* bad boy! http://www.beatlelinks.net/ubb/smilies/whip.gif

[Suprmallet]

Originally posted by sexymama
http://www.beatlelinks.net/ubb/smilies/spank.gif

*spank, spank* bad boy! http://www.beatlelinks.net/ubb/smilies/whip.gif

*Rubs sore behind*

So that was you, too! :mad: