anybody been to a swingers club? Also, can you goto to one if you don't have partner

[IC_Freeze]

just wanted to know. thx

[Original Desmond]

General rule is couples and single girls only

single guys are generally not welcome or if so, in very limited numbers and with a heafty entry fee



well that's what i;ve heard on the grapevine ;)

[joefrog91]

I have been to an off-premesis club, two on-premisis clubs and attended several house parties.

The off-premisis club was kind of boring. Most people attend as couples and are only interested in picking up single women. Swingers generally don't like single men. I guess a few horny and pushy guys ruined it for everyone else. Most swinger clubs advertise in alternative newspapers and state whether or not single men are allowed. If they are, it's usually on a Wednesday or Thursday night and couples will usually go on the weekend.

The on-premesis club was way cool. I had to be invited by a female friend. After that, I could have gone by myself, but never had the time. The club was actually a house made into a club. This enabled them to get around certain laws. Entry fee is a donation not a door charge. Prices are sure to vary from city to city and club to club. I think I paid $75. If I had attended alone, it would have been $100. There was a dance floor, a huge hot tub that was actually a small pool, a kitchin, an orgy room with 12 beds, a bar and several little hide-a-way rooms. Some people get there and just take off all of their clothes. Others, myself included, socialize a little bit before taking off their clothes. I kept my boxers while walking around. Proper protocol is to let the woman initiate first contact. If the other couple is interested, they'll let you know. But believe me, the women are there to have sex. If you look half way decent, someone will want you.

The house party was also cool. Here is where you really find out what the lifestyle is all about. The lifestyle isn't just free sex. A lot of these people really want a long lasting friendship along with the sex. They make plans to hang out, go to dinner, attend movies, attend each other's kids sporting events, etc...
I found the group on Yahoo Clubs and sent them an email. Some of these groups allow single men. You just have to research all of them in your area. Even if you live in a small town, I'm sure there are some swingers there. There is a $100 donation to attend the parties. I made the mistake of having sex the first time I went with someone that I didn't actually like. Being new, I was afraid that if I turned down sex, I might not get asked again. I saw several single guys just standing around all night without getting any action. I didn't want to be one of those guys. I was right too. After that first one, I kept getting more and more offers. After awhile, I started being selective and I think I pissed some women off. The group I attended also had special gang bang parties for some of the women who like a lot of men at one time. These parties were all single men and about 5 women.

I also found women on Adultfriendfinder.com in my area. My advice to you is to find a Yahool Adult Group finder website and see if you can find a group in your area. Then find an alternative newspaper to see if there are ads for a club. Then try Adultfriendfinder.com. If you find a women that likes sex, then you can take her to a club or group that only accepts couples.

[Nick Danger]

I know two swingers. They are both single, but go to parties together as a "couple," and once past the door they go their separate ways. If you know a woman who is similarly inclined, you might try that approach.

[Buttmunker]

My experience with Swinger's Clubs are three-fold. The first time was in 1991, the second and third time in 2000.

1991 I was traveling in California and I heard about this club that moves around frequently to avoid getting busted by the cops. Apparently, taxi cab drivers are the guru's, and all I needed to do was ask. I forget the name of the place, but it had a Girl's name. So I go, not knowing what to expect (by this point, I'm 21 and very wet behind ear).

I get there, and they immediately usher me to a room where they order me to strip. I do. They tell me that I have to consent to having my photograph taken, otherwise no entry to the "club." I consent, and they photograph my nudeness (I'm assuming this is for their own protection - just so there isn't any suspense, nothing ever came of the photo. There weren't any consequences). So, into the club I go in my nakedness. There was Oldies on the radio, some old military dudes playing billiards, and various people (young and old) milling around. There was a whirlpool in the back, private rooms down a hallway, and a lounge in the rear. No alcohol - I found it surprising then, but by 2000 I recognized that zero alcohol (unless b.y.o.b) is the norm.

I got there around 7:30, so naturally there wasn't anything going on. Later on, this surfer dude made contact with one of the hottest women in the place. We all watched as the two went into one of the private rooms. It was a hot scene, as this surfer dude's private part was so long that the head just penetrated her vagina without him having to get up from sitting next to her. Apparently she was getting very turned on by this tease, and she closed the door!! Voyeurism opportunity - gone!

To make a long story short, there wasn't much sex going on here. At around 2:30 in the morning, this woman of about 50 laid herself down on a table and several of the men gathered around her. One of them started giving her oral on her muff, and before too long, they carried her like a sacrificial offering to one of the private rooms. A line formed, and one by one each of the guys (myself included) had intercourse with this girl. One guy done, boom, next, done, boom, next...That was the grand fanale of the evening. I got dressed and left.

2000 - Part I Fast forward, and I'm in New York now. I start dating this girl, and we're both into the scene. So we look online for Sex Clubs, and we find one in Long Island. We go, and the rule is it has to be couples on Saturdays, but single guys can go on Friday. This was a Saturday, so we paid whatever it was ($75-each is my guess). It was B.Y.O.B. - so we had our small flask of Jack and they served soft drinks at the bar (okay, enough of that). There's a lot of dancing - this place was light-years from the first place I went to in California, let me tell you. Hot people everyplace - not an old person in sight! Not to toot my own horn, but my girl friend and I were pretty hot ourselves, and we had no trouble mixing in. We're on the dance floor, and she spots this couple dancing nearby. We start dancing over to them, and before you know it, the guy has his fingers up my girl friend's muff. How do I know? She whispered to me: "I hope his fingers are clean." I was like, whoa-****! So I do the same thing with this guy's girl - very wet, very inviting. I see the guy pull down my girl's dress and starts giving oral on her breast - I follow suit and do this to his girl (who had as good a set, if not better, than my girl). It was turning out to be a pretty good evening - but the best was yet to come. The two girls start going at it: they're taking turns giving each other oral on their breasts. Very hot. So we eventually make our way to the back of the lounge. There was no kissing allowed (a rule set by my girl, unfortunately), so I immediately got under the table and started giving this guy's girl oral on her muffin. Naturally, the guy expected my girl to give him some oral - but my girl didn't find this guy attractive!! I'm like, duh-h what did you expect? Did you think you would get the girl, and I'd wind up with the guy or something? Needless to say, she goes running out the door! I'm like, ****! I look for my flask, then go out after her.

2000, Part II A few months later, we find this sex club in Manhattan. This place was a dump compared to the one in Long Island. One little dance room, and large private rooms in the back. The people in this club were not hot at all - they were, in fact, people you wouldn't look at twice if you saw them walking on the street. But we stay - ****, we paid more money to come here so yeah, we stayed. To make this story even shorter, all the patrons were in the back (all 20 of them) and having some very uninspired sex. I'm trying to have straight sex with my own girl, and I'm shocked to find that I'm having tremendous difficulty - I'm not comfortable, if you can believe it. We stop, and this short bald dude approaches my girl and says, "Can I **** you?" She astounds me with her reply: "Sure." He whips on a condom and does the deed. I'm disgusted by the whole thing, so he's done, and I'm done. We get dressed and go home.

My girl and I have been dating for only a month by this time, and although we weren't in love then, we were now. We said, no more to this, as the last encounter really twisted me (it could be because I didn't get mine that night from some stranger). We've never gone back, and have lived monogamously ever since.

(I still daydream about it, though, and wouldn't hesitate to go back to that place in Long Island on a Friday night should I ever be single again.)

[joefrog91]

Buttmunker's experience reminded me of something I forgot to put in my earlier post.

I went to a club in Austin a few years ago that allowed single men to attend on Thursday nights. I paid a membership fee of $40 at the door and was given a towel. I was told that the front part of the club was a lounge area with a small buffet, bar and a dance floor. They had a big screen tv that was playing adult videos.

There was a door leading to a back area that had a sign saying no one past this point fully clothed. So, I undressed and left my clothes in a locker and put the towel around me. Well, I get to the back and it must have been gay night because they're were nothing but men there. Well, there were two women, but they weren't looking for any men to play with. I walked around and say guys in a hot tub together. I kept walking around and found a dungeon area that had one guy paddling another guy. I walked to another room and saw a tv on mounted to a wall. Then I heard something and looked to my left. It was two guys laying a bed beating off. I walked back to the front where there were private rooms. I saw a door that was partially open and tried to enter it, but the door was being held by someone that didn't want anyone walking in. It's probably a good thing that I didn't see what was going on in there.

Also, some of the people at the house party I went to where not attractive at all. I'm sure there are swinger clubs and parties where everyone is a 10, but most are just average people trying to get it on.