testament to the sucktitude of my life (aka i just dont understand men)

[krkuhl]

so i go out last night and have a great time. i figure that a little nightcap with a friend with benefits would be a perfect ending to the evening. however, he never returned my call! hoping that he just didnt see it or was already in bed or something. in the meantime, i had 3 guys call tonight and want to take me out on a date. is there such a thing as a guy who can keep things uncomplicated with no strings attached??? what ever happened to the 3 million guys who were just looking for something physical and didnt want to get serious??? sigh...
okay, so i admit that women are much harder to undersatnd than men. but really, i never thought you guys were complicated creatures until now. do i just not understand you all or do i just suck?

[Jack Straw]

Krkuhl - What postal zip code do you live in? I'm just a one way ticket away from providing you with all the "no strings" pleasure you need.

[Giantrobo]

Sorry Krkuhl but....


AHHHHHHHH :lol:

REVENGE FOR THE HUNDREDS OF CALLS NOT RETURNED BY -YOU- WHEN SOME POOR SCHMUCK NEEDED A "NIGHTCAP" :up:

If more women had this happen to them more often... It wouldn't happen. Get it? ;)

[BigPete]

Well why not turn one of these would-be suitors into a new FWB? Instead of saying no-thanks to their date, simply tell them that you'll call them over when you get in later tonight. I'm sure they'll be there with bells on.

The fact of the matter is that sex is incredibly easy to come by, if that's honestly all you want. The only benefit to maintaining a FWB relationship is the vague sense of safety that comes from monogamy. If there are multiple FWBs, then really there is nothing in it for either person, unless one of the two can't get laid any other way.

Basically, it breaks down into two categories. The ones you want don't need you, and the ones that need you, you don't want. The only way to win is to start offering a little more or be willing to accept a little less. You can't expect to stand in the middle and come out on top.

[Jack Straw]

Originally posted by BigPete
The fact of the matter is that sex is incredibly easy to come by, if that's honestly all you want. Would you care to elaborate a little for those of us "in the dark".

[krkuhl]

giantrobo, so in other words i gotta step up to the plate and take a hit for the team? sigh, that so sucks.

jack straw--dont you even want to know what i look like first???

Big pete--actually, it is harder to turn a date into a friend with benefits than you would think. trust me, i have tried. attempted to be casual about it (like you mentioned) and tried the honest/blunt routine. both work fine for a few times. but there is always the "boy i wish we could spend more time together" line or the dreaded "what do you think about this relationship turning a bit more serious?" question. suckage. and no, i am not a picky girl with ridiculously high standards. it just seems that all guys around my age are interested in settling down. the only reason the guy i called is my only friend with benefits is because he keeps things simple and has yet to want to date me. i already had to back off 2 fwbs. it doesnt seem like it would be difficult to find a good fwb, but it is :(

[Deftones]

rotfl

This has to be the first time in the history of mankind has a women bitched about a situation where the guy wanted to get involved and and she wanted was friends w/ benefits!

[Jack Straw]

Originally posted by krkuhl
giantrobo, so in other words i gotta step up to the plate and take a hit for the team? sigh, that so sucks.

jack straw--dont you even want to know what i look like first???

Big pete--actually, it is harder to turn a date into a friend with benefits than you would think. trust me, i have tried. attempted to be casual about it (like you mentioned) and tried the honest/blunt routine. both work fine for a few times. but there is always the "boy i wish we could spend more time together" line or the dreaded "what do you think about this relationship turning a bit more serious?" question. suckage. and no, i am not a picky girl with ridiculously high standards. it just seems that all guys around my age are interested in settling down. the only reason the guy i called is my only friend with benefits is because he keeps things simple and has yet to want to date me. i already had to back off 2 fwbs. it doesnt seem like it would be difficult to find a good fwb, but it is :( Believe me, from what I know about you from your posts, you more than meet my requirements, sight unseen. :up:

[krkuhl]

Originally posted by Deftones
rotfl

This has to be the first time in the history of mankind has a women bitched about a situation where the guy wanted to get involved and and she wanted was friends w/ benefits!

yeah, one would think so, too, which is why this is so puzzling. but the number of men who want to just screw around has been on a steady decline in the last 2 years. i dont know, maybe it is something in the water down here or something?!?! men here are weird, no doubt. i had a guy freak out on my last night because i asked him if he wanted to dance. after the song ended (this is a country bar--kinda need a partner to dance and it isnt a sexually charged dance or anything like that), he goes, "i just want to let you know that aggressive women are a turn off." :confused: i told him, i was just wanting to dance, not get married. and the guy was a 50 yr old guy!!!! last night really made me :hscratch: honestly, men, if you were at a club that required partners for dancing and you were just standing there all night, would you be offended if a girl asked you to dance??? i never even considered asking a guy to dance being aggressive.

[BigPete]

Originally posted by Jack Straw
Would you care to elaborate a little for those of us "in the dark".

It's all about the attitude ... and mostly confidence. Not arrogance, just confidence. If you cannot decide if you look good, can you honestly expect a girl to care about your opinion when you tell her that she looks good? Just get your **** in line, be comfortable and proud of who you are, and get out of the house. They will find you.

[D.Pham00]

So, which Airport are you closer to, Bush or Hobby? i know Southwest has flights to Hobby with a stop at Phoenix there, and a non-stop flight back. Also, Hobby is closer to Galveston :)

[Bandoman]

You want someone who really wants no strings attached? Try a married guy. I wouldn't ever cheat on my wife, but there are plenty of guys out there who would and who don't want another "relationship".

I'm just sayin'.

[D.Pham00]

Originally posted by Bandoman
You want someone who really wants no strings attached? Try a married guy. I wouldn't ever cheat on my wife, but there are plenty of guys out there who would and who don't want another "relationship".

I'm just sayin'.

true...there are some men out there who like the excitement of having someone new with no strings attached.

[joltaddict]

Originally posted by krkuhl
i figure that a little nightcap with a friend with benefits would be a perfect ending to the evening. however, he never returned my call!

The only thing that trumps a bootie call is if youre already hooking up with someone when you get the call. Did you find out why he never called?

[Josh-da-man]

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[Houstondon]

Krkuhl, as a man and fellow Houstonian, I feel obligated to make up to you what another man/Houstonian did when he did you wrong. Just let me know when and where. :D

[krkuhl]

thanks for the interesting tidbits/offers :)

no clue why he didnt call back. we have very little interaction together besides booty calls; maybe see eachother once every 3 months or so non sexually speaking. the only time we call eachother is when we want to hook up. i doubt he will call and explain why he couldnt/didnt come over since he really doesnt have to, and i wont see him for quite awhile so i cant pull him aside and casually ask.

as for married men, they are off limits to me. i respect the sacrament of marriage too much to do that. i have been the "girl on the side" before and that kept things simple and no strings attached there.

[Nick Danger]

I guess you could start hanging with younger guys who don't yet have the urge to settle down, or guys in their thirties who've gotten over it. I don't think there's anything wrong with you. You're probably just having a dry spell.

BTW, I still love your sigline. My girlfriend has borrowed it and has printed it on buttons.

[Derrich]

This is all women's fault.

For YEARS they've been complaning about how men only want sex and now that guys are starting to change their ways, they complain how men only want relationships.


D

[Josh-da-man]

Originally posted by Derrich
This is all women's fault.

For YEARS they've been complaning about how men only want sex and now that guys are starting to change their ways, they complain how men only want relationships.


These four women are on vacation in Italy. They come across this tall building and go inside.

There is a large sign that reads "All of the men on this floor are tall."

The women look at each other. There is an elevator, and they decide to get on and see what's on the next floor.

They get off on the second floor, and are greeted by a large sign that reads: "All of the men on this floor are tall and handsome."

Again, the women look at each other and agree to see what kind of men are on the third floor.

On the third floor is another sign that reads "All of the men on this floor are tall, handsome, and intelligent."

Impressed, they travel to the fourth floor, to be greeted with a sign that declares "All of the men on this floor are tall, handsome, intelligent, and wealthy."

They continue onto the next floor, where "All of the men on this floor are tall, handsome, intelligent, wealthy, and kind."

Impressed, the women decide to see what awaits at the top floor.

When the get off the elevator, they find the following sign: "There are no men on this floor. This floor was built to prove that it is impossible to please a woman."

:D

[joltaddict]

Originally posted by Derrich
For YEARS they've been complaning about how men only want sex and now that guys are starting to change their ways, they complain how men only want relationships.

Youre attributing vast social changes to this one incident? :lol: I still say he was balls deep when she called. We are that shallow. We dont turn down no strings attached sex.

[Bushdog]

Originally posted by joltaddict
Youre attributing vast social changes to this one incident? :lol: I still say he was balls deep when she called. We are that shallow. We dont turn down no strings attached sex. :lol: Agreed.

Also possible that he was just close to the possibility of getting some new ass, and a guy being a guy, he was more interested in the new than the old.

[speedy1961]

Originally posted by krkuhl
is there such a thing as a guy who can keep things uncomplicated with no strings attached?

Yes.... I'm right here in Connecticut unfortunately... :(

[ravan]

Respect for that guy not calling back :lol: rotfl

Of course - his loss. but still, he's my hero (or hes gay and afraid to tell you)

[Deftones]

funny thing is krk is misleading you all w/ this thread. ;)

[bigsoos]

I grew up in the Houston area. krkuhl, I know my way around. lol

[PerpleNerple]

Originally posted by krkuhl
...as for married men, they are off limits to me. i respect the sacrament of marriage too much to do that. i have been the "girl on the side" before and that kept things simple and no strings attached there.

Much love 4 you. It's great to see people that have respect for marriage.

I'd offer to 'hook' you up, but then if you met me and realized how wonderful I am, and how great I am in bed, you want a serious relationship (even though I'm not that hairy). rotfl
And well... I can't deal with serious relationships, and I really don't care to even think of getting involved with someone.


Best of luck to you, and I hope you find whomever it is your looking for, or 'Not' looking for.

[kwbdc]

wow, that's something new....a guy who wants more than a "friend with benefits"??? maybe he took too much nyquil and fell asleep....

[PerpleNerple]

Hey Krkuhl,

You could walk around with a T-shirt that says,
Looking 4 Friends with Benefits, apply here!