Growing up, did you talk to your parents about sex?

WhoGirl · 06-12-2002, 11:05 PM

Or, did they talk to you about it at all? Did you or they feel comfortable talking about it?

I did, and so did my parents. My parents were really cool with issues like that. They still remembered what it was like to be my age back then, and gave me the best advice they could without criticizing or just telling me not to do it.

I'm also wondering if talking with parents about sex has made you feel more comfortable talking about it with other people or posting about it here.

clemente · 06-13-2002, 07:47 AM

We never had that talk....to this day, it just hasn't been mentioned. I'm 23.

PerpleNerple · 06-13-2002, 07:52 AM

My parents didn't really talk about it. They gave me a book to read when I was in second grade I believe. Subconsciously I thought that there was more info to be had. So when I became older I started reading more books on the subject. I then came across a book called the Hite Report. Lots of useful info on sex, and alot of useful info on what women like. Then it became a quest to know as much as possible on how to please a woman, looking back I think it's funny how I was so interested in pleasing a woman in bed and I was still a virgin. But all in all, sex is best when the two people are compatible. I believe that because of the relationship that I'm in now. I've never been so comfortable in my life, to be able to do anything you want and be comfortable with someone you love is truly intoxicating. Sex is easy, learning about it is easy, finding the right match is extremely hard. I actually thank my parents for presenting it to me the way they did because it made me do my own research, and it more than likely made me better in bed. I am actually very comfortable with talking about sex with anyone, even though my parents never "talked" to me. I'm real comfortable with my body and being naked, I don't have any qualms about showing my body to anyone, I do not however give it to anyone but the person I'm with. I don't give up my gifts easily and never will.

JimRochester · 06-13-2002, 09:35 AM

They told me about it but not in detail. More like answering any questions I had but not initiating any conversation.

Saxofonix · 06-13-2002, 09:35 AM

I was about 18 .. and my dad saw that I had a copy of *Sex Manners For Men* (which would be really dated by now) .. and he simply said: "Ok, now I know you know." And that was that. Nevermind that I had been sexually active for two years already ..

postnataldrip · 06-13-2002, 11:43 AM

hotaru_san · 06-13-2002, 01:36 PM

my mom talked to me about it

she started when I was fairly young (8 or 9, I think) and told me a bit more over time

I have never talked to my father about sex. Judging by how freaked out he used to get when he'd find my bras, I doubt the topic will ever come up.

icondude · 06-13-2002, 01:58 PM

No, but the whole family did watch porn togather.

Rocky_Stallone · 06-13-2002, 03:34 PM

Nope, not for me...we've never talked about it. I'll probably feel embarrassed and shy away if they start getting into a conversation about it.

The only time I got into a big conversation about sex with an another adult was in health class when I was in high school. Sex is always a big topic to talk about in Health class and students really get into that topic in school and most of them don't like the "Health" subject in school either.

Wormwood · 06-13-2002, 05:45 PM

Here's a funny story. When I was younger I used to hang out with the neighbor's kids a lot. Anyway, the youngest one thought that sex was when mommy and daddy jumped all over the bed naked while peeing on each other.

weyland-yutani · 06-14-2002, 05:32 AM

no. my mum just bought me a kitten and told what would happen if my hands "wandered".

Mr Maxwell House · 06-16-2002, 12:05 PM

yep

my parents were a couple of free-love hippies, and on top of that my mom was a nurse who was comfortable talking about that kind of stuff in a no-nonsense fashion. I hope I'm able to handle talking about sex with my kids as well as my parents did for me.

kian69 · 06-16-2002, 12:11 PM

I'm glad I had very open parents about issues like that as well. They always gave me great advice and let me have my privacy. They never imposed anything nor were they ever too strict. They recognized that sex was part of a normal life, so they just tried to guide me in a good way regarding that.

Giles · 06-20-2002, 03:47 PM

Kind of, but it was more like "here son, take a look at this book"
"any questions?"
"no, good"

Copenhagen · 06-20-2002, 03:51 PM

I'm 24 and to this day I never got the "talk" per se. The closet thing to the talk was back when I was in high school and dating a girl my dad told me the worst thing you could do to your life right now is get someone pregnant so use a condom.

Groucho · 06-20-2002, 06:07 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by WhoGirl
Growing up, did you talk to your parents about sex?

Yes, but they interupted me and explained that they already knew.

Copenhagen · 06-20-2002, 06:13 PM

@ Groucho

ziggy · 06-21-2002, 08:31 AM

When I was about to go on my first date...
...I think I was 17, (ziggy=loser)...

....My dad said, "make sure you wrap it up."

JesseCuster · 06-21-2002, 12:09 PM

My dad made the obligatory condom statement when I started dating and I always got the sense that if I ever had any questions, I could always come to them. I pretty much learned about it on my own and from talking with friends though. Sex talk and parents just don't mix, no matter how clinical it is.

sfsdfd · 06-23-2002, 07:07 PM

Didn't we already do this one?

The answer is NO.

My parents probably would rather have sawed off one of their limbs than talk frankly about sex.

- David Stein

criptik28 · 05-14-2006, 06:24 PM

Holy crap this is a 4-year bump! Just out of curiosity, why the bump?

EdTheRipper · 05-14-2006, 06:53 PM

Nope, never had the discussion with my mom. I'm 28 and the topic still hasn't come up.

Charlie Goose · 05-14-2006, 07:12 PM

When I was 12, my mother caught me masturbating. She was horrified and told me I should save it for marriage. About a month later, she asked me how I was doing with that. I said, "Pretty good, I've saved about a gallon so far."

wergo · 05-14-2006, 09:06 PM

I learned everything I needed to know about sex from James Joyce and William S. Burroughs books.

When I was 17 (!) my dad nervously asked me if I had any questions about sex. (I'm fairly certain my mother nagged him into giving me "the talk") While a couple of facetious questions came to mind, I took pity on him and just said "no." He looked mighty relieved.

BeeLineTooHive · 05-15-2006, 04:18 AM

parents were always open... even bought me playboys and condoms... said better use the mags but if it comes down to it I better use the condoms

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06-12-2002, 11:05 PM	#1
WhoGirl DVD Talk Legend Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: The Last House on the Left Posts: 12,660	Growing up, did you talk to your parents about sex? Or, did they talk to you about it at all? Did you or they feel comfortable talking about it? I did, and so did my parents. My parents were really cool with issues like that. They still remembered what it was like to be my age back then, and gave me the best advice they could without criticizing or just telling me not to do it. I'm also wondering if talking with parents about sex has made you feel more comfortable talking about it with other people or posting about it here. __________________ "Somehow, it's not hard to imagine WhoGirl in a nun's habit carrying an assault rifle." - Nosmo Rex

06-13-2002, 07:47 AM	#2
clemente Senior Member Join Date: Sep 1999 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 6,031	We never had that talk....to this day, it just hasn't been mentioned. I'm 23. __________________ Everyone has an opinion, why shouldn't I? TheaterHopping

06-13-2002, 07:52 AM	#3
PerpleNerple DVD Talk Special Edition Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: The Red Stick Posts: 1,550	My parents didn't really talk about it. They gave me a book to read when I was in second grade I believe. Subconsciously I thought that there was more info to be had. So when I became older I started reading more books on the subject. I then came across a book called the Hite Report. Lots of useful info on sex, and alot of useful info on what women like. Then it became a quest to know as much as possible on how to please a woman, looking back I think it's funny how I was so interested in pleasing a woman in bed and I was still a virgin. But all in all, sex is best when the two people are compatible. I believe that because of the relationship that I'm in now. I've never been so comfortable in my life, to be able to do anything you want and be comfortable with someone you love is truly intoxicating. Sex is easy, learning about it is easy, finding the right match is extremely hard. I actually thank my parents for presenting it to me the way they did because it made me do my own research, and it more than likely made me better in bed. I am actually very comfortable with talking about sex with anyone, even though my parents never "talked" to me. I'm real comfortable with my body and being naked, I don't have any qualms about showing my body to anyone, I do not however give it to anyone but the person I'm with. I don't give up my gifts easily and never will. __________________ I love eating GRITS! Nerp's List

06-13-2002, 09:35 AM	#4
JimRochester Senior Member Join Date: Sep 1999 Location: Rochester, NY. USA Posts: 6,834	They told me about it but not in detail. More like answering any questions I had but not initiating any conversation. __________________ Convicted? No, never convicted - John Winger Widescreen Presentation I've stopped counting

06-13-2002, 09:35 AM	#5
Saxofonix Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: NJ, USA Posts: 1,044	I was about 18 .. and my dad saw that I had a copy of Sex Manners For Men (which would be really dated by now) .. and he simply said: "Ok, now I know you know." And that was that. Nevermind that I had been sexually active for two years already ..

06-13-2002, 11:43 AM	#6
postnataldrip Banned Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: waves Posts: 1,729	yep.

06-13-2002, 01:36 PM	#7
hotaru_san DVD Talk Hall of Fame Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: florida Posts: 9,481	my mom talked to me about it she started when I was fairly young (8 or 9, I think) and told me a bit more over time I have never talked to my father about sex. Judging by how freaked out he used to get when he'd find my bras, I doubt the topic will ever come up. __________________ I know that mess spelled backwards is ssem and I felt much better armed with that information. - tori amos Last edited by hotaru_san; 06-13-2002 at 01:39 PM.

06-13-2002, 01:58 PM	#8
icondude Banned Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: USA Posts: 6,837	No, but the whole family did watch porn togather.

06-13-2002, 03:34 PM	#9
Rocky_Stallone Banned Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: The member formally known as Guitar_God Posts: 1,282	Nope, not for me...we've never talked about it. I'll probably feel embarrassed and shy away if they start getting into a conversation about it. The only time I got into a big conversation about sex with an another adult was in health class when I was in high school. Sex is always a big topic to talk about in Health class and students really get into that topic in school and most of them don't like the "Health" subject in school either.

06-13-2002, 05:45 PM	#10
Wormwood DVD Talk Gold Edition Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: The Alamo Basement Posts: 2,791	Here's a funny story. When I was younger I used to hang out with the neighbor's kids a lot. Anyway, the youngest one thought that sex was when mommy and daddy jumped all over the bed naked while peeing on each other. __________________ "I was so lucky getting mono, that was like the best diet ever!" - Romy and Michele's High School Reunion

06-14-2002, 05:32 AM	#11
weyland-yutani Suspended Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: England Posts: 92	no. my mum just bought me a kitten and told what would happen if my hands "wandered". __________________ "If brains were dynamite, you wouldn't have enough to blow your hat off"

06-16-2002, 12:05 PM	#12
Mr Maxwell House DVD Talk Ultimate Edition Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: underneath a silly hat Posts: 4,515	yep my parents were a couple of free-love hippies, and on top of that my mom was a nurse who was comfortable talking about that kind of stuff in a no-nonsense fashion. I hope I'm able to handle talking about sex with my kids as well as my parents did for me. __________________ Sometimes when I feel like killing someone, I do a little trick to calm myself down. I'll go over to the person's house and ring the doorbell. When the person comes to the door, I'm gone, but you know what I've left on the porch? A jack-o-lantern with a knife stuck in the side of its head with a note that says "You." After that I usually feel a lot better, and no harm done.

06-16-2002, 12:11 PM	#13
kian69 DVD Talk Gold Edition Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Canada Posts: 2,096	I'm glad I had very open parents about issues like that as well. They always gave me great advice and let me have my privacy. They never imposed anything nor were they ever too strict. They recognized that sex was part of a normal life, so they just tried to guide me in a good way regarding that. __________________ DVDTalk (Exchange Forum) GLD TRADER

06-20-2002, 03:47 PM	#14
Giles DVD Talk Legend Join Date: Dec 1999 Location: Washington DC Posts: 17,750	Kind of, but it was more like "here son, take a look at this book" "any questions?" "no, good" __________________ 2007 October Horror Film Challenge ~ 2007 Film List (Part 1) / 2007 Film List (Part 2) / Unrated-Alternate-Director's Cuts / 1st Annual Academy Award Movie Challenge / Concert Diary

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06-20-2002, 03:51 PM	#15
Copenhagen DVD Talk Legend Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Danville, CA Posts: 10,673	I'm 24 and to this day I never got the "talk" per se. The closet thing to the talk was back when I was in high school and dating a girl my dad told me the worst thing you could do to your life right now is get someone pregnant so use a condom. __________________ "lesbians don't benefit heterosexual males - their existance actually lessens the number of available females" - ziggy My Dvd's \| DVD Talk Gold Trader \|My Games Xbox Live Gamertag: Copenhagen \| YOUR HEAD A SPLODE DTSL: Doppelgangers (84522) kvrdave runs Bartertown

06-20-2002, 06:13 PM	#17
Copenhagen DVD Talk Legend Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Danville, CA Posts: 10,673	@ Groucho __________________ "lesbians don't benefit heterosexual males - their existance actually lessens the number of available females" - ziggy My Dvd's \| DVD Talk Gold Trader \|My Games Xbox Live Gamertag: Copenhagen \| YOUR HEAD A SPLODE DTSL: Doppelgangers (84522) kvrdave runs Bartertown

06-21-2002, 08:31 AM	#18
ziggy DVD Talk Gold Edition Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: My apartment Posts: 2,733	When I was about to go on my first date... ...I think I was 17, (ziggy=loser)... ....My dad said, "make sure you wrap it up." __________________ They keep you doped with religion and sex and TV, and you think you're so clever and classless and free, but you're still ****ing peasants as far as I can see.

06-21-2002, 12:09 PM	#19
JesseCuster Senior Member Join Date: May 2001 Location: The Appian Way by way of Birmingham, AL Posts: 2,144	My dad made the obligatory condom statement when I started dating and I always got the sense that if I ever had any questions, I could always come to them. I pretty much learned about it on my own and from talking with friends though. Sex talk and parents just don't mix, no matter how clinical it is. __________________ "One more anal-probing gyro-pyro levitating ectoplasm alien anti-matter story and I'm going to take out my gun and shoot somebody." - Fox Mulder The X-Files DVD Profiler Last edited by JesseCuster; 06-24-2002 at 12:37 AM.

06-23-2002, 07:07 PM	#20
sfsdfd Senior Member Join Date: Oct 1999 Location: \|-\|@><0r L@n\|) Posts: 17,420	Didn't we already do this one? The answer is NO. My parents probably would rather have sawed off one of their limbs than talk frankly about sex. - David Stein __________________ "The Other is not a peaceful community. We are bitches." -kvrdave Ask not what your country can do for you... because the answer is disappointing.

05-14-2006, 06:24 PM	#21
criptik28 DVD Talk Legend Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Atlanta, GA Occupation: Livin' the dream Posts: 15,516	Holy crap this is a 4-year bump! Just out of curiosity, why the bump?

05-14-2006, 06:53 PM	#22
EdTheRipper Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 2,286	Nope, never had the discussion with my mom. I'm 28 and the topic still hasn't come up. __________________ My DVDs Winner of the 2nd Annual October Horror Movie Challenge 3rd Annual October Horror Movie Challenge LIST

05-14-2006, 07:12 PM	#23
Charlie Goose Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Sesame Street (the apt. next to Bob's) Posts: 12,777	When I was 12, my mother caught me masturbating. She was horrified and told me I should save it for marriage. About a month later, she asked me how I was doing with that. I said, "Pretty good, I've saved about a gallon so far." __________________ Ohwa Tagu Siam

05-14-2006, 09:06 PM	#24
wergo Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Toronto Posts: 1,158	I learned everything I needed to know about sex from James Joyce and William S. Burroughs books. When I was 17 (!) my dad nervously asked me if I had any questions about sex. (I'm fairly certain my mother nagged him into giving me "the talk") While a couple of facetious questions came to mind, I took pity on him and just said "no." He looked mighty relieved.

05-15-2006, 04:18 AM	#25
BeeLineTooHive Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Huntington WVA.. but not a back woods country bumpkin Posts: 104	parents were always open... even bought me playboys and condoms... said better use the mags but if it comes down to it I better use the condoms __________________ :brickwl: MY DVD LIST

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