guy advice [maturish]

minifigg · 09-17-2002, 03:20 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by kittygurl
Ok you all have the wrong idea. We have been friends for over a year and a half and we have been hanging out for 2 months and we make out alot. I have only given him 2 bjs. Its not like a daily thing. And what i mean by making the first move is, that I wont do anything until he does. And usually we make out. And I can tell hes nervous by the way he talks and acts, thats what i wanted your advice on because he seems like he likes me and hes not all about sex. He seems like he is just nervous or not ready but I don't understand why he is acting the way he is. I live alone and if he was all bout getting laid and getting a bj he could, but he chooses not to.

OH! You have only given him 2 blowjobs and just make out "alot".
Well, then I was COMPLETELY wrong.
He is not using you like a rag.
More like just a handi-wipe.
Carry on.
mini

Y2K Falcon · 09-17-2002, 03:21 PM

Shaggette?

minifigg · 09-17-2002, 03:22 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Y2K Falcon
Shaggette?

The thought had crossed my mind.
More like TBelle.

mini

shizawn · 09-17-2002, 03:33 PM

You need to tell him how you feel. He needs to know that you're concerned. He thinks there's nothing wrong with the situation because you haven't let him know that there is. Find out why he doesn't want a relationship. Maybe he only wants a casual thing because that's what he thinks *you* want.

Communication is key.

LurkerDan · 09-17-2002, 03:42 PM

kittygurl, I still think it's likely that most people here are on the money. Is there a chance that he really wants you for more than casual "hook-ups" but something is holding him back? Yes, there's a chance. Is there a chance that he still may want a serious relationship with you? Yes, there's a chance.

Are either of these chances very likely? Nuh-uh.

But, as I'm sure you know, our advice only goes so far. We aren't miracle workers here, we can't make GuessWho sleep with his boss, and we can't get T-ball laid (ok, maybe we sorta can

), so we're not going to be able to give you the magic answer pill. Only you and he know for sure. But our guesses, collectively, are educated guesses based on lots of experience. Use them as you will...

minifigg · 09-17-2002, 03:43 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by LurkerDan
Nuh-uh.

Nice.
mini

El Scorcho · 09-17-2002, 04:01 PM

Maybe's this guy's just a big pu**y who is afraid to ask her out?

Some guys can be like that. Not afraid to put his wang in your mouth but afraid to ask you if you can commit yourself to ONLY put his wang in your mouth.

Bushdog · 09-17-2002, 04:13 PM

Clearly you'll do what you want, but don't say you weren't warned. Good luck.

renaldow · 09-17-2002, 04:19 PM

kittygurl,

He doesn't want to be your boyfriend. It's a simple matter of pain v. pleaseure. He does nothing now, and gets a BJ. That's pleasure. He becomes your boyfriend, has to spend time and money on you, and gets a little bit more than a BJ (You may not believe it, but really, it's not that much more exciting unless you use sparklers or midgets, and even then it's a lot more work than getting a BJ.) That's pain.

Also, you know those movies where 2 people kind of like eachother, but can't admit it, then somehow fate throws them together one night, they do it and are automatically an item? Well, that's kind of what happens in real life too, if both people are attracted to eachother. If not, they don't become an item and just have casual sex every now and then when they need to, kind of what it sounds like he's using you for.

Why buy the dinner when you get the BJ for free? - renaldow

LurkerDan · 09-17-2002, 05:21 PM

I don't know which I should be more surprised at, that this thread lasted as long in Other as it did before being moved, or that someone decided to move it after 50 some-odd posts which did not in the least bit escalate from the original ones.

MJKTool · 09-17-2002, 05:26 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by renaldow
I feel sorry for the guy now. He's sitting at home minding his own business and unbeknownst to him there's a whole message board trying to seperate him from his free bj's!

WORD! Dont listen to all these people...continue the BJ's!!!

JimRochester · 09-17-2002, 06:32 PM

Gee can I be your friend? Are you getting any satisfaction from this "friendship"? If that's what you want keep doing it, if not, it's not friendship, it's one person using another.

renaldow · 09-17-2002, 07:00 PM

If you're going to continue with it, you might as well take a look at this thread:

http://www.dvdtalk.com/forum/showthr...hreadid=236100

zero · 09-17-2002, 08:07 PM

Well kitty whats it going to be? You honestly cant keep holding his hand like this. I get that you two are friends and you I gather care something for him, but this isnt good. How do you know he isnt telling his friends about how he is using you. Maybe I got it all wrong, and this isnt as bad as it looks. As everyone else has already posted ask him then what he wants. If he cant look you in the eye and tell you what it is that he does want or continues with this "No Im not ready for a relationship...now make with the head" (sorry but this is how it sounds to me) then you need to stop and find yourself a guy who will appreciate you, and treat you with the respect you deserve. No girl deserves to be used, and you dont either.

Then again Im a nice guy, and you know what they say about us.
Believe me kitty you deserve better.

Another bit of advice from your friendly neighborhood

zero

09-17-2002, 03:33 PM	#54
shizawn Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: Santa Clara, California Posts: 5,780	You need to tell him how you feel. He needs to know that you're concerned. He thinks there's nothing wrong with the situation because you haven't let him know that there is. Find out why he doesn't want a relationship. Maybe he only wants a casual thing because that's what he thinks you want. Communication is key. __________________ Born to be mild.

09-17-2002, 03:42 PM	#55
LurkerDan DVD Talk Legend Join Date: Jan 2000 Location: The People's Republic of Boulder Posts: 11,096	kittygurl, I still think it's likely that most people here are on the money. Is there a chance that he really wants you for more than casual "hook-ups" but something is holding him back? Yes, there's a chance. Is there a chance that he still may want a serious relationship with you? Yes, there's a chance. Are either of these chances very likely? Nuh-uh. But, as I'm sure you know, our advice only goes so far. We aren't miracle workers here, we can't make GuessWho sleep with his boss, and we can't get T-ball laid (ok, maybe we sorta can ), so we're not going to be able to give you the magic answer pill. Only you and he know for sure. But our guesses, collectively, are educated guesses based on lots of experience. Use them as you will... __________________ "I have dictionary facts to support me." - art "we get paid for butt time" - mosquitobite "It felt much more comfortable when I was trying them on. No sharp edge poking my skin." - Buford T. Pusser

09-17-2002, 04:01 PM	#57
El Scorcho Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2000 Posts: 36,145	Maybe's this guy's just a big puy who is afraid to ask her out? Some guys can be like that. Not afraid to put his wang in your mouth but afraid to ask you if you can commit yourself to ONLY put his wang in your mouth. __________________ Chet Harper: Thank you, Stuart! Latest talk is that David Robinson is over the hill. But in my book, you gotta get to Whitecastle before the weirdos show up! Tonight at the Alamodome, he gets Happy-Go-Jackie on the big white guy like a donkey eating a waffle! Sweet Sassy Molassey! Get out the checkbook and pay grandma for the rubdown** as the Spurs beat the Heat, 86-79! Stuart!

09-17-2002, 04:13 PM	#58
Bushdog Senior Member Join Date: Dec 1999 Location: Shackled Posts: 35,832	Clearly you'll do what you want, but don't say you weren't warned. Good luck. __________________ This Space Reserved for When My Ennui Lifts NearysEpiphany was right.

09-17-2002, 04:19 PM	#59
renaldow DVD Talk Hall of Fame Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 8,370	kittygurl, He doesn't want to be your boyfriend. It's a simple matter of pain v. pleaseure. He does nothing now, and gets a BJ. That's pleasure. He becomes your boyfriend, has to spend time and money on you, and gets a little bit more than a BJ (You may not believe it, but really, it's not that much more exciting unless you use sparklers or midgets, and even then it's a lot more work than getting a BJ.) That's pain. Also, you know those movies where 2 people kind of like eachother, but can't admit it, then somehow fate throws them together one night, they do it and are automatically an item? Well, that's kind of what happens in real life too, if both people are attracted to eachother. If not, they don't become an item and just have casual sex every now and then when they need to, kind of what it sounds like he's using you for. Why buy the dinner when you get the BJ for free? - renaldow __________________ The ball is round, the game lasts 90 minutes; everything else is theoretical. www.horrortalk.com

09-17-2002, 03:21 PM	#52
Y2K Falcon DVD Talk Legend Join Date: Apr 1999 Location: Austin, TX, USA Posts: 19,995	Shaggette?

09-17-2002, 05:21 PM	#60
LurkerDan DVD Talk Legend Join Date: Jan 2000 Location: The People's Republic of Boulder Posts: 11,096	I don't know which I should be more surprised at, that this thread lasted as long in Other as it did before being moved, or that someone decided to move it after 50 some-odd posts which did not in the least bit escalate from the original ones. __________________ "I have dictionary facts to support me." - art "we get paid for butt time" - mosquitobite "It felt much more comfortable when I was trying them on. No sharp edge poking my skin." - Buford T. Pusser

09-17-2002, 06:32 PM	#62
JimRochester Senior Member Join Date: Sep 1999 Location: Rochester, NY. USA Posts: 6,834	Gee can I be your friend? Are you getting any satisfaction from this "friendship"? If that's what you want keep doing it, if not, it's not friendship, it's one person using another. __________________ Convicted? No, never convicted - John Winger Widescreen Presentation I've stopped counting

09-17-2002, 07:00 PM	#63
renaldow DVD Talk Hall of Fame Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 8,370	If you're going to continue with it, you might as well take a look at this thread: http://www.dvdtalk.com/forum/showthr...hreadid=236100 __________________ The ball is round, the game lasts 90 minutes; everything else is theoretical. www.horrortalk.com

09-17-2002, 08:07 PM	#64
zero DVD Talk Platinum Edition Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Alta Loma, CA Posts: 3,911	Well kitty whats it going to be? You honestly cant keep holding his hand like this. I get that you two are friends and you I gather care something for him, but this isnt good. How do you know he isnt telling his friends about how he is using you. Maybe I got it all wrong, and this isnt as bad as it looks. As everyone else has already posted ask him then what he wants. If he cant look you in the eye and tell you what it is that he does want or continues with this "No Im not ready for a relationship...now make with the head" (sorry but this is how it sounds to me) then you need to stop and find yourself a guy who will appreciate you, and treat you with the respect you deserve. No girl deserves to be used, and you dont either. Then again Im a nice guy, and you know what they say about us. Believe me kitty you deserve better. Another bit of advice from your friendly neighborhood zero __________________ The question is not how far, the question is do you posses the constitution...the depth of faith to go as far as is needed? Gamer tag- Bandit Rev0lver

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