Have you ever been to a sex/swinger club?

[toolbin]

We'll probably end up going sometime in the near future with another couple. I'd like to go with another couple just so we at least know someone.

Anyone have any experiences to share?

[JimRochester]

No but after seeing the trailer on Vivid I'd like to go. One of things just so you can say you've done it.

[So_Cal_SAHM]

Vegas always seems like a good place to try something new so about six months ago I was planning a trip and came across a place called The Red Rooster. My traveling partner agreed to go and check it out with me. We never did make it to Vegas but when we do we are going to The Red Rooster!

[filmmusicfan]

Has anyone here gone to masturbation groups ?

[Wildo1966]

Originally Posted by filmmusicfan

Has anyone here gone to masturbation groups ?

No, but here in MA there are plenty of reststops where they are always circle jerk groups going strong. They raid them quite often and they still come right back...There is an inside joke here in MA, some people call the reststops 'The Barney Frank Condominiums'

[dstrauss]

We have friends who are big time swingers so we've been to a few clubs. It's almost always perfectly okay to show up and watch the goings-on around you as long as you recognize that some people do want privacy. Those that don't will be right out in the open, a lot of people of course get off on being watched. It also depends a lot on whether the club is for couples to meet there and then go off-premises for playing around or whether the club itself has rooms or areas for sex.

Generally it's not okay to do anything besides watch unless you have the woman's permission, although about 90% of the women in the lifestyle are bi so sometimes women can get away with joining in a lot easier than guys.

There shouldn't be any kind of stigma or embarrassment with being first timers, if there's a host, they'll figure it out right away.

The most important thing is to recognize that just because people are at a swing club doesn't mean they have no boundaries. Some couples might be there to watch or be watched, some might be doing soft swap (touching, kissing, etc.), some might be there for oral, and some might want full swap (intercourse). The important thing is to respect others and always let the women set the guidelines.

You also might want to discuss very specifically your expectations for the evening and what YOUR boundaries are before you enter. If you guys can't talk about what your boundaries are, with no holding back, then don't go. Communication is absolutely essential to avoid jealousy and the emotional problems that come with it.

Also, a good tip is to have a safeword or a code phrase that only you two know that basically says, "I'm a little freaked out, let's get back outside and reconsider our situation." And only use it if you need to take a break.

Every club has their own rules and ettiquette. So you might want to learn about the club a bit before you go. Most have their own web sites these days, check out naughtynightlife.com for listings.

Hope that helps.

[filmmusicfan]

Originally Posted by dstrauss

We have friends who are big time swingers so we've been to a few clubs. It's almost always perfectly okay to show up and watch the goings-on around you as long as you recognize that some people do want privacy. Those that don't will be right out in the open, a lot of people of course get off on being watched. It also depends a lot on whether the club is for couples to meet there and then go off-premises for playing around or whether the club itself has rooms or areas for sex.

Generally it's not okay to do anything besides watch unless you have the woman's permission, although about 90% of the women in the lifestyle are bi so sometimes women can get away with joining in a lot easier than guys.

There shouldn't be any kind of stigma or embarrassment with being first timers, if there's a host, they'll figure it out right away.

The most important thing is to recognize that just because people are at a swing club doesn't mean they have no boundaries. Some couples might be there to watch or be watched, some might be doing soft swap (touching, kissing, etc.), some might be there for oral, and some might want full swap (intercourse). The important thing is to respect others and always let the women set the guidelines.

You also might want to discuss very specifically your expectations for the evening and what YOUR boundaries are before you enter. If you guys can't talk about what your boundaries are, with no holding back, then don't go. Communication is absolutely essential to avoid jealousy and the emotional problems that come with it.

Also, a good tip is to have a safeword or a code phrase that only you two know that basically says, "I'm a little freaked out, let's get back outside and reconsider our situation." And only use it if you need to take a break.

Every club has their own rules and ettiquette. So you might want to learn about the club a bit before you go. Most have their own web sites these days, check out naughtynightlife.com for listings.

Hope that helps.

Thanks very much for your reply, dstrauss !

I'm going to be trying one soon !

[Buttmunker]

I went with a new girlfriend to two different Swing Clubs - one on Long Island (NY); the second in Manhattan.

The one in Long Island was smokin' - all the girls (including my girlfriend) wore short dresses with no underwear, and when guys danced with the girls, their hands went right up their skirt and diddled their vulvas. Some guy went up and danced with my girl (didn't ask permission - you don't ask permission to do anything in clubs like that, otherwise you wouldn't be there), and she leaned over and whispered to me that his fingers were in her vagina. So I went up to his girl (who, incidentally, was way hotter than the girl I was with) and shyly stuck my fingers up her dress. No underwear, wet as you can imagine. Whoo, what a turn-on. I looked over, and the guy had pulled her dress down as they were dancing, and he was sucking on her breasts. Shit, monkey see, so I did it to the girl I was dancing with (my girlfriend and I swore that we wouldn't kiss anybody else).

The second club was a few weeks later, and it was nowhere as good. For one thing, I started developing feelings for my girl, so I started getting all jealous and all the bullshit started up inside me. The people there were ugly, so there's no way in real life anybody would be even looking at these people, let along letting them touch your women. We had a big fight afterwards, and it was our last sojourn to the Swing Clubs.

[orderandlaw]

We hit up a club a couple months back and met a nice couple. It was on off-premise site, which means you can't put anything in any hole, or mouth on anything below the waist.

Of course, that didn't stop the women from having wardrobe malfunctions.

For some reason, the age range is a bit older for all the clubs around here.

We're having much better luck at regular bars.

[JimRochester]

Where is the one on Long Island?

[Buttmunker]

I forget where - somewhere just past Farmingdale, it was called The Long Island Manor

[filmmusicfan]

Originally Posted by Buttmunker

I forget where - somewhere just past Farmingdale, it was called The Long Island Manor

Nice to meet another fellow Long Islander !

[Buttmunker]

Originally Posted by filmmusicfan

Nice to meet another fellow Long Islander !

Nope, sorry, I just commuted over from Westchester at the time.

[mhg83]

I've gone to steamworks a few times. Very well kept place.