"You Could Hang a Winter Coat on it"
So in all of the talk about open
relationships I got a little excited I admit and did something ... a
little dumb probably. I texted an old fuck buddy telling him that I
may be opening up my marriage. He was excited; maybe a little too
excited. He's great and I feel really safe with him so he would be a
great first step outside of my marriage. He totally respects me and
likes taking care of me. At the same time I know he respects my
marriage and would never want to do anything to upset it. But I'm not
sure that it would really work. Things have changed so much since we
last got together. I've gained weight, I have a lot of pain issues,
and I would require as much protection as possible during sex. He's a
somewhat typical hetero guy and I have a feeling that he is not going
to like the idea of dental dams and gloves. But my wife and I already
gave each other an STI when we first started dating and it was awful.
A wart was passed from hand to vulva and then vulva to vulva. Neither
of us wants to go through that again so we are committed to keeping
our sex protected. Of course nothing is perfectly safe, but we want
to try to make it as safe as possible.
Anyways, so this guy (we'll call him by
his old nickname from my personal livejournal: The Personal Trainer)
got really excited about the possibility of us hooking up again. He's
always made it very clear that he's always available to me. He even
stuck his nose into a previous relationship of mine trying to get
some. My fault though for complaining about the lack of sex in that
relationship to him.
So this is how the conversation via
Garnet: FYI: talks about opening up my
marriage have begun. Its a long process though.
Personal Trainer: Don't tease me! Can I
just start standing outside your window now? :)
G: LOL! Just wanted you to know since
you're a likely candidate. I feel safe w you and that's super
important to me. Also you never know, you may not be interested.
G: But I know that you'll also respect
my marriage and boundaries which I need
PT: I'm so wanting you right now you
could hang your winter coat on it!
G: LOL Well it won't be for awhile yet.
There's a lot that the wife and I need to discuss. And there's a good
chance that we won't even be in Chicago by then.
PT: You know I will always respect you!
And then go down on you until your toes curl and your eyes roll back
G: Well keep in mind that a lot of
things have changed. A lot of things that used to feel awesome now
hurt me. You'd have to take the time to relearn my body.
PT: You know damn well I'd love to
undertake that task! Do I get to lick your beautiful ass again?
*a few minutes go by*
PT: I'll take that as a resounding
G: LOL we'll see. Like I said, we just
started talking about it. We'll see what happens and like I said, we
may not be in Chicago
G: Heh have some patience boy! I'm at
PT: Ok :)
PT: Where are you going to move to?
G: West coast most likely. I really
want to move to the bay area but Portland may be a possibility.
Depends on where the wife finds a job.
G: But I figure you travel a bit and I
have family in Chicago so I'll be around sometimes.