Savanna on Sex – Deep Throat, Anal Sex and Swinging

Here's the first installment:

My wife is great at giving head and occasionally she tries to deep throat,but usually gags. Is there any way she can improve her deepthroating skills? - GJM

How lucky! A wife that gives great head! Well there certainly is something to be said for deep throating without gagging too much and I'll tell you what, it's not easy for most of us. 

In porn you have the Briana Banks and Sasha Greys with zero gag reflex but that is not the norm, trust me. I have come a long way in this department, particularly since I am a tiny bit claustrophobic and spent quite a few of my teenage years as a pathetic bulimic. That being, exposed if you will, if I can deep throat anyone can! But yes it takes practice. You could help her as long as you resist the temptation to grab the back of her head and cram it in as deep as you can! I suggest you let her work your cock with her mouth for a few minutes, getting it really wet. BTW when I'm giving head and my mouth isn't as wet as I'd like,

I take the cock deeper and deeper in my throat so that my own juices help lubricate, you know how you see those strings of spit when the girl takes it deep in her throat? Oh God this conversation is turning me on, OK sorry, where was I? Oh yes, getting the wife to deep throat, The only way that she will really improve is to try to control and eventually get rid of her gag reflex. This can be done with practice. Have her take your cock, or even practice with a gel dildo, and take it as deep as she can. When she feels she is about to gag, have her hold it there for as long as she can before pulling back. She must try to stay calm and you have to remember not to start fucking her throat! Let her ease into this and eventually she will be able to take it deeper and both of you will start to truly enjoy the pleasure of deep throating.  Let me know how it goes! Remember it won't happen over night but a little deeper at a time. Have fun!

I am a gay male and I fully understand how anal sex feels great for men, but I am confused as to how it feels good for women?  I mean sure the anus is full of nerve endings, but men have a prostate which I understand acts like a "g-spot" of sorts.  Do women have something similar in their anuses to make anal sex as great as it is for men? - Brandon B

Wow Brandon, great question! The thing is it doesn't really make sense since we don't have a prostate but I'll tell you, my best orgasms are during anal sex. It is, however, always with some kind of clitoral stimulation at the same time. I mean, I've never cum from anal sex from behind. It's always been on top or with him on top where my clit gets stimulated as well. Anal sex is amazing for me, I can only imagine what it's like for you!

My wife and I have thought about swinging. Do you have any advice for us?  How do you get started? What are some good guidelines and rules to follow?- Dave W

Hi Dave, isn't it great to keep an open dialog with your wife about your fantasies and then actually be able to make them reality? I know it's not easy in the beginning to share your partner with another lover but if you can do it in a way that makes each other know that they are the most important thing then it can be a magical experience. I think it's most important for the man not to pay too much attention to the other woman or if you're with another guy that she doesn't pay too much attention to him. Women especially tend to get jealous if they think their man is too into the other person. So remember to always remind her how beautiful she is and how much you love her and how gorgeous she looks with the other person. We woman need that stuff, trust me. Being safe makes for a much more pleasurable experience so make sure you keep it wrapped. I always investigate the private parts in the most discreet and sexy ways that I can but you can never be too careful. Taking a romantic bath together with candles is always fun and a great way to get things started and also takes care of any hygiene concerns.

Rules never work. You know how you want something more if you cant have it? Well, forget about those silly rules, like no penetrating the other person or no kissing. Boring! And besides you're just going to want it more if you cant do it. 

It can be a dangerous game too so I don't like to be with the same people over and over, that way no unwanted feeling come into play. Remember you're doing this because you want to enhance your love life, not have a love life with anyone else. 

- Savanna

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